2010年9月20日星期一
2010年8月10日星期二
Courage
QUESTION: What does "courage" have to do with being a person of good character...with someone who stays true to their principles and their values?
ANSWER: EVERYTHING!
You see, being values-driven means two things:
Doing what's right - following our conscience; refusing to compromise our principles, despite pressures and temptations to the contrary, and
Taking a stand against what's wrong - speaking out, whenever we see others do things that are incorrect or inappropriate.
Unquestionably, both of those require guts and fortitude...they require courage.
Courage is...
Following your conscience instead of "following the crowd".Refusing to take part in hurtful or disrespectful behaviors.Sacrificing personal gain for the benefit of others.Speaking your mind even though others don't agree.Taking complete responsibility for your actions...and your mistakes.Following the rules - and insisting that others do the same.Challenging the status quo in search of better ways.Doing what you know is right- regardless of the risks and potential consequences.
I'd like to share the "Cadet Prayer" that is repeated during chapel services at the U.S. Military Academy:
"Make us to choose the harder right instead of the easier wrong, and never to be content with a half truth when the whole truth can be won. Endow us with the courage that is born of loyalty to all that is noble and worthy, that scorns to compromise with vice and injustice and knows no fear when truth and right are in jeopardy."
That is truly the essence of courage.
ANSWER: EVERYTHING!
You see, being values-driven means two things:
Doing what's right - following our conscience; refusing to compromise our principles, despite pressures and temptations to the contrary, and
Taking a stand against what's wrong - speaking out, whenever we see others do things that are incorrect or inappropriate.
Unquestionably, both of those require guts and fortitude...they require courage.
Courage is...
Following your conscience instead of "following the crowd".Refusing to take part in hurtful or disrespectful behaviors.Sacrificing personal gain for the benefit of others.Speaking your mind even though others don't agree.Taking complete responsibility for your actions...and your mistakes.Following the rules - and insisting that others do the same.Challenging the status quo in search of better ways.Doing what you know is right- regardless of the risks and potential consequences.
I'd like to share the "Cadet Prayer" that is repeated during chapel services at the U.S. Military Academy:
"Make us to choose the harder right instead of the easier wrong, and never to be content with a half truth when the whole truth can be won. Endow us with the courage that is born of loyalty to all that is noble and worthy, that scorns to compromise with vice and injustice and knows no fear when truth and right are in jeopardy."
That is truly the essence of courage.
2010年7月27日星期二
Attitude Of Gratitude
Life is not about waiting for the storms to pass...
it's about learning how to dance in the rain!"
I thought...that's it! We all face adversity in our life. However, it's not the adversity, but how we react to it that will determine the joy and happiness in our life. During tough times, do we spend too much time feeling sorry for ourselves, or, can we, with gratitude...learn how to dance in the rain?
It almost sounds too simple to feel important, but one word...gratitude, can change your attitude, thus, your life, forever. Sarah Breathnack said it best...
"When we choose not to focus on what is missing from our lives but are grateful for the abundance that's present....we experience heaven on earth."
it's about learning how to dance in the rain!"
I thought...that's it! We all face adversity in our life. However, it's not the adversity, but how we react to it that will determine the joy and happiness in our life. During tough times, do we spend too much time feeling sorry for ourselves, or, can we, with gratitude...learn how to dance in the rain?
It almost sounds too simple to feel important, but one word...gratitude, can change your attitude, thus, your life, forever. Sarah Breathnack said it best...
"When we choose not to focus on what is missing from our lives but are grateful for the abundance that's present....we experience heaven on earth."
2010年7月20日星期二
The Strangest Secret
George Bernard Shaw said, "People are always blaming their circumstances for what they are. I don't believe in circumstances. The people who get on in this world are the people who get up and look for the circumstances they want, and if they can't find them, they make them."
Well, it's pretty apparent, isn't it? And every person who discovered this believed (for a while) that he was the first one to work it out. We become what we think about.
Conversely, the person who has no goal, who doesn't know where he's going, and whose thoughts must therefore be thoughts of confusion, anxiety and worry - his life becomes one of frustration, fear, anxiety and worry. And if he thinks about nothing... he becomes nothing.
How does it work? Why do we become what we think about? Well, I'll tell you how it works, as far as we know. To do this, I want to tell you about a situation that parallels the human mind.
Suppose a farmer has some land, and it's good, fertile land. The land gives the farmer a choice; he may plant in that land whatever he chooses. The land doesn't care. It's up to the farmer to make the decision.
We're comparing the human mind with the land because the mind, like the land, doesn't care what you plant in it. It will return what you plant, but it doesn't care what you plant.
Now, let's say that the farmer has two seeds in his hand- one is a seed of corn, the other is nightshade, a deadly poison. He digs two little holes in the earth and he plants both seeds-one corn, the other nightshade. He covers up the holes, waters and takes care of the land...and what will happen? Invariably, the land will return what was planted.
As it's written in the Bible, "As ye sow, so shall ye reap."
Remember the land doesn't care. It will return poison in just as wonderful abundance as it will corn. So up come the two plants - one corn, one poison.
The human mind is far more fertile, far more incredible and mysterious than the land, but it works the same way. It doesn't care what we plant...success...or failure. A concrete, worthwhile goal...or confusion, misunderstanding, fear, anxiety and so on. But what we plant must return to us.
You see, the human mind is the last great unexplored continent on earth. It contains riches beyond our wildest dreams. It will return anything we want to plant.
Well, it's pretty apparent, isn't it? And every person who discovered this believed (for a while) that he was the first one to work it out. We become what we think about.
Conversely, the person who has no goal, who doesn't know where he's going, and whose thoughts must therefore be thoughts of confusion, anxiety and worry - his life becomes one of frustration, fear, anxiety and worry. And if he thinks about nothing... he becomes nothing.
How does it work? Why do we become what we think about? Well, I'll tell you how it works, as far as we know. To do this, I want to tell you about a situation that parallels the human mind.
Suppose a farmer has some land, and it's good, fertile land. The land gives the farmer a choice; he may plant in that land whatever he chooses. The land doesn't care. It's up to the farmer to make the decision.
We're comparing the human mind with the land because the mind, like the land, doesn't care what you plant in it. It will return what you plant, but it doesn't care what you plant.
Now, let's say that the farmer has two seeds in his hand- one is a seed of corn, the other is nightshade, a deadly poison. He digs two little holes in the earth and he plants both seeds-one corn, the other nightshade. He covers up the holes, waters and takes care of the land...and what will happen? Invariably, the land will return what was planted.
As it's written in the Bible, "As ye sow, so shall ye reap."
Remember the land doesn't care. It will return poison in just as wonderful abundance as it will corn. So up come the two plants - one corn, one poison.
The human mind is far more fertile, far more incredible and mysterious than the land, but it works the same way. It doesn't care what we plant...success...or failure. A concrete, worthwhile goal...or confusion, misunderstanding, fear, anxiety and so on. But what we plant must return to us.
You see, the human mind is the last great unexplored continent on earth. It contains riches beyond our wildest dreams. It will return anything we want to plant.
2010年7月15日星期四
The 100/0 Principle
What is the most effective way to create and sustain great relationships with others? It's The 100/0 Principle: You take full responsibility (the 100) for the relationship, expecting nothing (the 0) in return.
Implementing The 100/0 Principle is not natural for most of us. It takes real commitment to the relationship and a good dose of self-discipline to think, act and give 100 percent.
The 100/0 Principle applies to those people in your life where the relationships are too important to react automatically or judgmentally. Each of us must determine the relationships to which this principle should apply. For most of us, it applies to work associates, customers, suppliers, family and friends.
STEP 1 - Determine what you can do to make the relationship work...then do it. Demonstrate respect and kindness to the other person, whether he/she deserves it or not.
STEP 2 - Do not expect anything in return. Zero, zip, nada.
STEP 3 - Do not allow anything the other person says or does (no matter how annoying!) to affect you. In other words, don't take the bait.
STEP 4 - Be persistent with your graciousness and kindness. Often we give up too soon, especially when others don't respond in kind. Remember to expect nothing in return.
At times (usually few), the relationship can remain challenging, even toxic, despite your 100 percent commitment and self-discipline. When this occurs, you need to avoid being the "Knower" and shift to being the "Learner." Avoid Knower statements/ thoughts like "that won't work," "I'm right, you are wrong," "I know it and you don't," "I'll teach you," "that's just the way it is," "I need to tell you what I know," etc.
Instead use Learner statements/thoughts like "Let me find out what is going on and try to understand the situation," "I could be wrong," "I wonder if there is anything of value here," "I wonder if..." etc. In other words, as a Learner, be curious!
Principle Paradox
This may strike you as strange, but here's the paradox: When you take authentic responsibility for a relationship, more often than not the other person quickly chooses to take responsibility as well. Consequently, the 100/0 relationship quickly transforms into something approaching 100/100. When that occurs, true breakthroughs happen for the individuals involved, their teams, their organizations and their families.
Implementing The 100/0 Principle is not natural for most of us. It takes real commitment to the relationship and a good dose of self-discipline to think, act and give 100 percent.
The 100/0 Principle applies to those people in your life where the relationships are too important to react automatically or judgmentally. Each of us must determine the relationships to which this principle should apply. For most of us, it applies to work associates, customers, suppliers, family and friends.
STEP 1 - Determine what you can do to make the relationship work...then do it. Demonstrate respect and kindness to the other person, whether he/she deserves it or not.
STEP 2 - Do not expect anything in return. Zero, zip, nada.
STEP 3 - Do not allow anything the other person says or does (no matter how annoying!) to affect you. In other words, don't take the bait.
STEP 4 - Be persistent with your graciousness and kindness. Often we give up too soon, especially when others don't respond in kind. Remember to expect nothing in return.
At times (usually few), the relationship can remain challenging, even toxic, despite your 100 percent commitment and self-discipline. When this occurs, you need to avoid being the "Knower" and shift to being the "Learner." Avoid Knower statements/ thoughts like "that won't work," "I'm right, you are wrong," "I know it and you don't," "I'll teach you," "that's just the way it is," "I need to tell you what I know," etc.
Instead use Learner statements/thoughts like "Let me find out what is going on and try to understand the situation," "I could be wrong," "I wonder if there is anything of value here," "I wonder if..." etc. In other words, as a Learner, be curious!
Principle Paradox
This may strike you as strange, but here's the paradox: When you take authentic responsibility for a relationship, more often than not the other person quickly chooses to take responsibility as well. Consequently, the 100/0 relationship quickly transforms into something approaching 100/100. When that occurs, true breakthroughs happen for the individuals involved, their teams, their organizations and their families.
2010年7月8日星期四
Wisdom of Wolves
The attitude of the wolf can be summed up simply: it is a constant visualization of success. The collective wisdom of wolves has been progressively programmed into their genetic makeup throughout the centuries. Wolves have mastered the technique of focusing their energies toward the activities that will lead to the accomplishment of their goals.
Wolves do not aimlessly run around their intended victims, yipping and yapping. They have a strategic plan and execute it through constant communication. When the moment of truth arrives, each understands his role and understands exactly what the pack expects of him.
The wolf does not depend on luck. The cohesion, teamwork and training of the pack determines whether the pack lives or dies.
There is a silly maxim in some organizations that everyone, to be a valuable member, must aspire to be the leader. This is personified by the misguided CEO who says he only hires people who say they want to take his job. Evidently, this is supposed to ensure that the person has ambition, courage, spunk, honesty, drive - whatever. In reality, it is simply a contrived situation, with the interviewee jumping through the boss's hoops. It sends warnings of competition and one-upmanship throughout the organization rather than signals of cooperation, teamwork and loyalty.
Everyone does not strive to be the leader in the wolf pack. Some are consummate hunters or caregivers or jokesters, but each seems to gravitate to the role he does best. This is not to say there are not challenges to authority, position and status - there are. But each wolf's role begins emerging from playtime as a pup and refines itself through the rest of its years. The wolf's attitude is always based upon the question, "What is best for the pack?" This is in marked contrast to us humans, who will often sabotage our organizations, families or businesses, if we do not get what we want.
Wolves are seldom truly threatened by other animals. By constantly engaging their senses and skills, they are practically unassailable. They are masters of planning for the moment of opportunity to present itself, and when it does, they are ready to act.
Because of training, preparation, planning, communication and a preference for action, the wolf's expectation is always to be victorious. While in actuality this is true only 10 percent of the time or less, the wolf's attitude is always that success will come-and it does.
Wolves do not aimlessly run around their intended victims, yipping and yapping. They have a strategic plan and execute it through constant communication. When the moment of truth arrives, each understands his role and understands exactly what the pack expects of him.
The wolf does not depend on luck. The cohesion, teamwork and training of the pack determines whether the pack lives or dies.
There is a silly maxim in some organizations that everyone, to be a valuable member, must aspire to be the leader. This is personified by the misguided CEO who says he only hires people who say they want to take his job. Evidently, this is supposed to ensure that the person has ambition, courage, spunk, honesty, drive - whatever. In reality, it is simply a contrived situation, with the interviewee jumping through the boss's hoops. It sends warnings of competition and one-upmanship throughout the organization rather than signals of cooperation, teamwork and loyalty.
Everyone does not strive to be the leader in the wolf pack. Some are consummate hunters or caregivers or jokesters, but each seems to gravitate to the role he does best. This is not to say there are not challenges to authority, position and status - there are. But each wolf's role begins emerging from playtime as a pup and refines itself through the rest of its years. The wolf's attitude is always based upon the question, "What is best for the pack?" This is in marked contrast to us humans, who will often sabotage our organizations, families or businesses, if we do not get what we want.
Wolves are seldom truly threatened by other animals. By constantly engaging their senses and skills, they are practically unassailable. They are masters of planning for the moment of opportunity to present itself, and when it does, they are ready to act.
Because of training, preparation, planning, communication and a preference for action, the wolf's expectation is always to be victorious. While in actuality this is true only 10 percent of the time or less, the wolf's attitude is always that success will come-and it does.
2010年7月6日星期二
Every Day is a Gift
"If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion."-The Dalai Lama
"You can have anything you want in life, if you will just help enough other people get what they want."-Zig Ziglar
What does "True Abundance" mean to you?
According to Wikipedia, the definition of abundance is "the opposite of scarcity." I believe true abundance is not measured by what you have; rather, it is measured by what you give.
In our culture, it seems that most people are caught up in their "need for greed." Perhaps this is why so many people struggle to find their happiness, and why over 25% of the people in our country suffer from anxiety. We live in a culture where we are taught to judge a person based on what they have, rather than on who they are and what they contribute to society.
According to Wikipedia, the definition of abundance is "the opposite of scarcity." I believe true abundance is not measured by what you have; rather, it is measured by what you give.
In our culture, it seems that most people are caught up in their "need for greed." Perhaps this is why so many people struggle to find their happiness, and why over 25% of the people in our country suffer from anxiety. We live in a culture where we are taught to judge a person based on what they have, rather than on who they are and what they contribute to society.
I challenge you to focus on this philosophy for an entire month! Here are some action steps that will help you stay focused on this incredible gift:
ACTION STEPS
Gratitude. Every night before you go to sleep, recite aloud at least ten things for which you are grateful.
Forgive. Let go of the past. Forgive those who have hurt or angered you. Stop carrying this poison around with you every day.
Love. Be sure to tell those people in your life who mean so much to you that you love them and appreciate them.
Donate. Go through your closets. Anything you haven't worn or used in the past year, box it or bag it and take it to a place where those who are less fortunate will benefit from your donation. Get your children involved!
Praise. Make time to praise. Look for and recognize the good in others.
ACTION STEPS
Gratitude. Every night before you go to sleep, recite aloud at least ten things for which you are grateful.
Forgive. Let go of the past. Forgive those who have hurt or angered you. Stop carrying this poison around with you every day.
Love. Be sure to tell those people in your life who mean so much to you that you love them and appreciate them.
Donate. Go through your closets. Anything you haven't worn or used in the past year, box it or bag it and take it to a place where those who are less fortunate will benefit from your donation. Get your children involved!
Praise. Make time to praise. Look for and recognize the good in others.
2010年7月1日星期四
Pulling Together
Consistent application of the 10 rules of high performance teamwork ultimately generates trust, respect, unity and power within any team. Conversely, consistent violation of any one rule destroys this bond. While the author of the following is unknown, "Lessons From the Geese" is a powerful illustration from nature of the rules of high performance teamwork. As you read about the natural unity that exists among this species remember - this same unity can exist in your organization!
As geese flap their wings, they create an uplift for the bird following. By flying in a V formation, the whole flock adds 71% greater flying range than if any bird were to fly alone. If we share a common direction and a sense of community, we can get where we are going more quickly and easily because we are traveling on the thrust of one another!
Whenever a goose falls out of formation, it suddenly feels the drag and resistance of trying to fly alone, and quickly gets back into formation to take advantage of the lifting power of the bird immediately in front. If we have as much sense as geese, we will stay in formation with those who are headed where we want to go, and we will be willing to accept their help as well as give ours to others.
When the lead goose gets tired, it rotates back into formation and another goose flies at the point position.If we take turns doing the hard tasks and sharing leadership as with the geese, we become interdependent with one another.The geese in formation honk from behind to encourage those up front to keep up their speed. If we "honk," we need to make sure it is positive and encouraging.
When a goose gets sick or wounded or is shot down, two geese drop out of formation and follow it down to help and protect it. They stay with it until it is able to fly again or dies. They then launch out on their own, with another formation or catch up with the flock. If we have as much sense as geese, we too will stand by each other in difficult times, as well as when we are strong. Let us all try to fly in formation and remember to drop back to help those who might need it!
BEHOLD THE POWER OF TEAMWORK
The greatest accomplishments in life are not achieved by individuals alone, but by proactive people pulling together for a common good. Look behind every winner and you will find a great coach. Look out in front of every superstar and you will see a positive role model. Look alongside every great achiever and you will find caring people offering encouragement, support and able assistance.
Rising to this level of interdependent thinking can be challenging and difficult. Looking beyond oneself, asking for help or accepting help can feel risky. But people are not given life to simply take from one another. We are here to give. Our mission in life is to offer our gifts to benefit one another, to create mutual gain in the world. This is called teamwork, a win/win mindset stemming from a genuine commitment to the rules that allow it to happen.
As geese flap their wings, they create an uplift for the bird following. By flying in a V formation, the whole flock adds 71% greater flying range than if any bird were to fly alone. If we share a common direction and a sense of community, we can get where we are going more quickly and easily because we are traveling on the thrust of one another!
Whenever a goose falls out of formation, it suddenly feels the drag and resistance of trying to fly alone, and quickly gets back into formation to take advantage of the lifting power of the bird immediately in front. If we have as much sense as geese, we will stay in formation with those who are headed where we want to go, and we will be willing to accept their help as well as give ours to others.
When the lead goose gets tired, it rotates back into formation and another goose flies at the point position.If we take turns doing the hard tasks and sharing leadership as with the geese, we become interdependent with one another.The geese in formation honk from behind to encourage those up front to keep up their speed. If we "honk," we need to make sure it is positive and encouraging.
When a goose gets sick or wounded or is shot down, two geese drop out of formation and follow it down to help and protect it. They stay with it until it is able to fly again or dies. They then launch out on their own, with another formation or catch up with the flock. If we have as much sense as geese, we too will stand by each other in difficult times, as well as when we are strong. Let us all try to fly in formation and remember to drop back to help those who might need it!
BEHOLD THE POWER OF TEAMWORK
The greatest accomplishments in life are not achieved by individuals alone, but by proactive people pulling together for a common good. Look behind every winner and you will find a great coach. Look out in front of every superstar and you will see a positive role model. Look alongside every great achiever and you will find caring people offering encouragement, support and able assistance.
Rising to this level of interdependent thinking can be challenging and difficult. Looking beyond oneself, asking for help or accepting help can feel risky. But people are not given life to simply take from one another. We are here to give. Our mission in life is to offer our gifts to benefit one another, to create mutual gain in the world. This is called teamwork, a win/win mindset stemming from a genuine commitment to the rules that allow it to happen.
2010年6月17日星期四
Secrets of the World Class
When average performers have had enough for the day and call it quits, champions are usually just getting started. Discipline is the watchword of great performers. Discipline makes the difference between the good and the great. The great ones will tell you discipline is more of a decision than it is an active skill. It's the ability to stay the course and complete promises you've made. The fulfillment of these promises builds confidence and self-esteem, which eventually leads champions to believe almost anything is possible. It's a habit and a self-fulfilling prophecy built into one. Discipline is a logic-based decision that performers adhere to, regardless of whether they feel like it or not.
Discipline pushes performers past pain and punishment. "It's easier to get yourself into good thinking than it is to think yourself into good action." This is the mindset of the champion. don't let feelings interfere with your performance. Instead, you harness the power of your emotional motivators to propel you past the competition. Average people see discipline as a painful chore to be avoided at all costs. The world class sees it as the ultimate power tool for performance.
Discipline pushes performers past pain and punishment. "It's easier to get yourself into good thinking than it is to think yourself into good action." This is the mindset of the champion. don't let feelings interfere with your performance. Instead, you harness the power of your emotional motivators to propel you past the competition. Average people see discipline as a painful chore to be avoided at all costs. The world class sees it as the ultimate power tool for performance.
2010年6月3日星期四
The Right to Lead
What gives a man or woman the right to lead? It certainly isn't gained by election or appointment. Having position, title, rank or degrees doesn't qualify anyone to lead other people. And the ability doesn't come automatically from age or experience, either.
No, it would be accurate to say that no one can be given the right to lead. The right to lead can only be earned. And that takes time.
The Kind of Leader Others Want to Follow
The key to becoming an effective leader is not to focus on making other people follow, but on making yourself the kind of person they want to follow. You must become someone others can trust to take them where they want to go.
As you prepare yourself to become a better leader, use the following guidelines to help you grow:
Let go of your ego.
The truly great leaders are not in leadership for personal gain. They lead in order to serve other people. Perhaps that is why Lawrence D. Bell remarked, "Show me a man who cannot bother to do little things, and I'll show you a man who cannot be trusted to do big things."
Become a good follower first.
Rare is the effective leader who didn't learn to become a good follower first. That is why a leadership institution such as the United States Military Academy teaches its officers to become effective followers first - and why West Point has produced more leaders than the Harvard Business School.
Build positive relationships.
Leadership is influence, nothing more, nothing less. That means it is by nature relational. Today's generation of leaders seem particularly aware of this because title and position mean so little to them. They know intuitively that people go along with people they get along with.
Work with excellence.
No one respects and follows mediocrity. Leaders who earn the right to lead give their all to what they do. They bring into play not only their skills and talents, but also great passion and hard work. They perform on the highest level of which they are capable.
Rely on discipline, not emotion.
Leadership is often easy during the good times. It's when everything seems to be against you - when you're out of energy, and you don't want to lead - that you earn your place as a leader. During every season of life, leaders face crucial moments when they must choose between gearing up or giving up. To make it through those times, rely on the rock of discipline, not the shifting sand of emotion.
Make adding value your goal.
When you look at the leaders whose names are revered long after they have finished leading, you find that they were men and women who helped people to live better lives and reach their potential. That is the highest calling of leadership - and its highest value.
Give your power away.
One of the ironies of leadership is that you become a better leader by sharing whatever power you have, not by saving it all for yourself. You're meant to be a river, not a reservoir. If you use your power to empower others, your leadership will extend far beyond your grasp.
No, it would be accurate to say that no one can be given the right to lead. The right to lead can only be earned. And that takes time.
The Kind of Leader Others Want to Follow
The key to becoming an effective leader is not to focus on making other people follow, but on making yourself the kind of person they want to follow. You must become someone others can trust to take them where they want to go.
As you prepare yourself to become a better leader, use the following guidelines to help you grow:
Let go of your ego.
The truly great leaders are not in leadership for personal gain. They lead in order to serve other people. Perhaps that is why Lawrence D. Bell remarked, "Show me a man who cannot bother to do little things, and I'll show you a man who cannot be trusted to do big things."
Become a good follower first.
Rare is the effective leader who didn't learn to become a good follower first. That is why a leadership institution such as the United States Military Academy teaches its officers to become effective followers first - and why West Point has produced more leaders than the Harvard Business School.
Build positive relationships.
Leadership is influence, nothing more, nothing less. That means it is by nature relational. Today's generation of leaders seem particularly aware of this because title and position mean so little to them. They know intuitively that people go along with people they get along with.
Work with excellence.
No one respects and follows mediocrity. Leaders who earn the right to lead give their all to what they do. They bring into play not only their skills and talents, but also great passion and hard work. They perform on the highest level of which they are capable.
Rely on discipline, not emotion.
Leadership is often easy during the good times. It's when everything seems to be against you - when you're out of energy, and you don't want to lead - that you earn your place as a leader. During every season of life, leaders face crucial moments when they must choose between gearing up or giving up. To make it through those times, rely on the rock of discipline, not the shifting sand of emotion.
Make adding value your goal.
When you look at the leaders whose names are revered long after they have finished leading, you find that they were men and women who helped people to live better lives and reach their potential. That is the highest calling of leadership - and its highest value.
Give your power away.
One of the ironies of leadership is that you become a better leader by sharing whatever power you have, not by saving it all for yourself. You're meant to be a river, not a reservoir. If you use your power to empower others, your leadership will extend far beyond your grasp.
2010年5月30日星期日
The Strangest Secret
George Bernard Shaw said, "People are always blaming their circumstances for what they are. I don't believe in circumstances. The people who get on in this world are the people who get up and look for the circumstances they want, and if they can't find them, they make them."
Well, it's pretty apparent, isn't it? And every person who discovered this believed (for a while) that he was the first one to work it out. We become what we think about.
Conversely, the person who has no goal, who doesn't know where he's going, and whose thoughts must therefore be thoughts of confusion, anxiety and worry - his life becomes one of frustration, fear, anxiety and worry. And if he thinks about nothing... he becomes nothing.
How does it work? Why do we become what we think about? Well, I'll tell you how it works, as far as we know. To do this, I want to tell you about a situation that parallels the human mind.
Suppose a farmer has some land, and it's good, fertile land. The land gives the farmer a choice; he may plant in that land whatever he chooses. The land doesn't care. It's up to the farmer to make the decision.
We're comparing the human mind with the land because the mind, like the land, doesn't care what you plant in it. It will return what you plant, but it doesn't care what you plant.
Now, let's say that the farmer has two seeds in his hand- one is a seed of corn, the other is nightshade, a deadly poison. He digs two little holes in the earth and he plants both seeds-one corn, the other nightshade. He covers up the holes, waters and takes care of the land...and what will happen? Invariably, the land will return what was planted.
As it's written in the Bible, "As ye sow, so shall ye reap."
Remember the land doesn't care. It will return poison in just as wonderful abundance as it will corn. So up come the two plants - one corn, one poison.
The human mind is far more fertile, far more incredible and mysterious than the land, but it works the same way. It doesn't care what we plant...success...or failure. A concrete, worthwhile goal...or confusion, misunderstanding, fear, anxiety and so on. But what we plant must return to us.
You see, the human mind is the last great unexplored continent on earth. It contains riches beyond our wildest dreams. It will return anything we want to plant.
Well, it's pretty apparent, isn't it? And every person who discovered this believed (for a while) that he was the first one to work it out. We become what we think about.
Conversely, the person who has no goal, who doesn't know where he's going, and whose thoughts must therefore be thoughts of confusion, anxiety and worry - his life becomes one of frustration, fear, anxiety and worry. And if he thinks about nothing... he becomes nothing.
How does it work? Why do we become what we think about? Well, I'll tell you how it works, as far as we know. To do this, I want to tell you about a situation that parallels the human mind.
Suppose a farmer has some land, and it's good, fertile land. The land gives the farmer a choice; he may plant in that land whatever he chooses. The land doesn't care. It's up to the farmer to make the decision.
We're comparing the human mind with the land because the mind, like the land, doesn't care what you plant in it. It will return what you plant, but it doesn't care what you plant.
Now, let's say that the farmer has two seeds in his hand- one is a seed of corn, the other is nightshade, a deadly poison. He digs two little holes in the earth and he plants both seeds-one corn, the other nightshade. He covers up the holes, waters and takes care of the land...and what will happen? Invariably, the land will return what was planted.
As it's written in the Bible, "As ye sow, so shall ye reap."
Remember the land doesn't care. It will return poison in just as wonderful abundance as it will corn. So up come the two plants - one corn, one poison.
The human mind is far more fertile, far more incredible and mysterious than the land, but it works the same way. It doesn't care what we plant...success...or failure. A concrete, worthwhile goal...or confusion, misunderstanding, fear, anxiety and so on. But what we plant must return to us.
You see, the human mind is the last great unexplored continent on earth. It contains riches beyond our wildest dreams. It will return anything we want to plant.
2010年5月19日星期三
人生有三乐
知足常乐，自得其乐，助人为乐.
快乐其实很简单，知足一点就可以了.
快乐其实很简单，乐观一点就可以了。
快乐其实很简单，宽容一点就可以了。
做人要低调，但绝不是低看自己！
快乐其实很简单，多一点爱心就可以了。
不要养成低头的习惯，要学会仰望
快乐其实很简单，不要自己不快乐就可以了。
你有犯错误的勇气，就应该有接受惩罚的勇气。
为自己而活是人生的根本，替他人着想是为人的境界。
人生犹如一本书，愚蠢者草草翻过，聪明人细细阅读
寂寞是没有朋友，没人关心，孤独是关心你的人很多，却没有人真正理解你。
所有的坎坷都是路，所有痛苦都是另一种幸福
主动地做大幅度的改变，是人生活得更精彩的唯一道路。”
“把每一件简单的事做好就是不简单，把每一件平凡的小事做好就是不平凡。”海尔集团总裁张瑞敏
没有比脚更长的路，没有比人更高的山
苦难是一所人生的大学
："如果你不能成为大道，那就当一条小路；如果你不能成为太阳，那就当一颗星星。决定成败的不是尺寸的大小，而在于做一个最好的你
快乐其实很简单，知足一点就可以了.
快乐其实很简单，乐观一点就可以了。
快乐其实很简单，宽容一点就可以了。
做人要低调，但绝不是低看自己！
快乐其实很简单，多一点爱心就可以了。
不要养成低头的习惯，要学会仰望
快乐其实很简单，不要自己不快乐就可以了。
你有犯错误的勇气，就应该有接受惩罚的勇气。
为自己而活是人生的根本，替他人着想是为人的境界。
人生犹如一本书，愚蠢者草草翻过，聪明人细细阅读
寂寞是没有朋友，没人关心，孤独是关心你的人很多，却没有人真正理解你。
所有的坎坷都是路，所有痛苦都是另一种幸福
主动地做大幅度的改变，是人生活得更精彩的唯一道路。”
“把每一件简单的事做好就是不简单，把每一件平凡的小事做好就是不平凡。”海尔集团总裁张瑞敏
没有比脚更长的路，没有比人更高的山
苦难是一所人生的大学
："如果你不能成为大道，那就当一条小路；如果你不能成为太阳，那就当一颗星星。决定成败的不是尺寸的大小，而在于做一个最好的你
2010年5月18日星期二
一个受过教育的人
在我看来，一个受过教育的人，或许他（她）没有英俊的外表或姣美的容颜，但是他（她）自然朴实，乐观自信，不卑不亢，能够平等地与所有人交往；或许他（她）并不高大，却有人格的挺拔与伟岸，有坚定的意志、强烈的责任感和不屈不挠的品格；或许他（她）没有机会去干大事，他（她）却能够以饱满的热情和潜心的投入去做小事；或许他(她) 既没有显赫的身世，也没有超人的才智，或许他(她)并不耀眼，并不引人注目，但他（她）悦纳自我、友爱他人，易于领导与合作，而难以奴役和盘剥……
受过教育的人，是这样一个人：他（她）严正而又宽容，深邃而又单纯；执着而又潇洒，真诚而又练达；他（她）勤勉而又从容，刚毅而又柔情；豪放而又儒雅，平实而又不断地追求人生更高的生命境界。
一个受过教育的人，是具有某种品质的人，而不是指“上过学”的人，不是指获得了某种学位的人，具有某种学历和文凭的人。
受过教育的人，应该是具有民主的性格的人――乐于分享，善于沟通，勤于反思，服膺真理，勇于承担，敢于创新的人；一个有胆、有识、有情、有义、有趣的人。
可是，我们的生活中并不缺少没有受过教育的政坛名流、商界大亨――他们欲壑难填，为富不仁，就因为他们没有强烈而深刻的精神需要；更不缺少没有受过教育的大腕明星，他们的自我膨胀往往会污损别人的尊严，他们的粗俗源于缺乏健康的趣味和心性的修养；我们的生活中甚至也不缺少没有受过教育的专家、教授——他们知道做一些事情，却不知道为何做这些事情，就因为他们缺乏深厚的理性精神，缺乏坚定的信仰，缺乏道义的承担。
他们甚至没有现代社会公民必备的权利意识和公共意识，甚至没有过健康生活的基本知识和技能……他们缺少的太多太多！然而，没有人有权利去责备他们，他们是我们心中深深的痛。
我无数次想起那句话：“没有任何一国受过良好教育的人民是贫穷的，也没有任何一国没有受过良好教育的人民是不贫穷的，在民智开启的地方，经济发展自然水到渠成……”。
对于我们每一个人来说，有什么比受过良好的教育更重要呢？它会写在你的脸上：坚定而深邃的目光，宁静而舒展表情； “桃李不言，下自成蹊”――它会使你成为受人尊敬和受人欢迎的人，它会赋予你一双发现美的眼睛——这并不是说受过教育的人就看不见丑恶，而是因为它同时会赋予你一颗悲天悯人而又温暖宽容的心。
受过教育的人，并不就是一个完人，一个“高大全”的人，但是他（她）一定善于学习，勤于自我反思，有开放的胸襟和怀抱，不断地追求生命更高的境界；他（她）也许会有这样那样的不足或弱点，有这样那样的软肋和局限，但是他（她）能正视自我，不文过饰非；他（她）能够从善如流，并不断地开拓生活和自由。
教育的过程就是一个不完美的人引领着另一个（或另一群）不完美的人追求完美的过程。也许我们始终只能在现实与理想之间徘徊，让更多的人成为受过教育的人，应该成为我们全社会努力追求的一个目标。“知识改变命运，教育成就未来”。
命运的改变就不仅仅是那些作为弱势群体的人们个人的事情，改变的将是整个国家的命运，民族的命运，改变的将是我们所有的人的生活品质。
我们更有理由相信，用良好教育成就的未来一定是光明的、温暖的、我们梦寐以求的阳光普照开满鲜花的未来。
受过教育的人，是这样一个人：他（她）严正而又宽容，深邃而又单纯；执着而又潇洒，真诚而又练达；他（她）勤勉而又从容，刚毅而又柔情；豪放而又儒雅，平实而又不断地追求人生更高的生命境界。
一个受过教育的人，是具有某种品质的人，而不是指“上过学”的人，不是指获得了某种学位的人，具有某种学历和文凭的人。
受过教育的人，应该是具有民主的性格的人――乐于分享，善于沟通，勤于反思，服膺真理，勇于承担，敢于创新的人；一个有胆、有识、有情、有义、有趣的人。
可是，我们的生活中并不缺少没有受过教育的政坛名流、商界大亨――他们欲壑难填，为富不仁，就因为他们没有强烈而深刻的精神需要；更不缺少没有受过教育的大腕明星，他们的自我膨胀往往会污损别人的尊严，他们的粗俗源于缺乏健康的趣味和心性的修养；我们的生活中甚至也不缺少没有受过教育的专家、教授——他们知道做一些事情，却不知道为何做这些事情，就因为他们缺乏深厚的理性精神，缺乏坚定的信仰，缺乏道义的承担。
他们甚至没有现代社会公民必备的权利意识和公共意识，甚至没有过健康生活的基本知识和技能……他们缺少的太多太多！然而，没有人有权利去责备他们，他们是我们心中深深的痛。
我无数次想起那句话：“没有任何一国受过良好教育的人民是贫穷的，也没有任何一国没有受过良好教育的人民是不贫穷的，在民智开启的地方，经济发展自然水到渠成……”。
对于我们每一个人来说，有什么比受过良好的教育更重要呢？它会写在你的脸上：坚定而深邃的目光，宁静而舒展表情； “桃李不言，下自成蹊”――它会使你成为受人尊敬和受人欢迎的人，它会赋予你一双发现美的眼睛——这并不是说受过教育的人就看不见丑恶，而是因为它同时会赋予你一颗悲天悯人而又温暖宽容的心。
受过教育的人，并不就是一个完人，一个“高大全”的人，但是他（她）一定善于学习，勤于自我反思，有开放的胸襟和怀抱，不断地追求生命更高的境界；他（她）也许会有这样那样的不足或弱点，有这样那样的软肋和局限，但是他（她）能正视自我，不文过饰非；他（她）能够从善如流，并不断地开拓生活和自由。
教育的过程就是一个不完美的人引领着另一个（或另一群）不完美的人追求完美的过程。也许我们始终只能在现实与理想之间徘徊，让更多的人成为受过教育的人，应该成为我们全社会努力追求的一个目标。“知识改变命运，教育成就未来”。
命运的改变就不仅仅是那些作为弱势群体的人们个人的事情，改变的将是整个国家的命运，民族的命运，改变的将是我们所有的人的生活品质。
我们更有理由相信，用良好教育成就的未来一定是光明的、温暖的、我们梦寐以求的阳光普照开满鲜花的未来。
Pulling Together....The 10 Rules for High Performance Teams
At the center of every high performance team is a common purpose - a mission that rises above and beyond each of the individual team members. To be successful, the team's interests and needs come first. This requires "we-opic" vision ("What's in it for we?"), a challenging step up from the common "me-opic" mind-set.
Effective team players understand that personal issues and personality differences are secondary to team demands. This does not mean abandoning who you are or giving up your individuality. On the contrary, it means sharing your unique strengths and differences to move the team forward. It is this "we-opic" focus and vision - this cooperation of collective capability - that empowers a team and generates synergy.
Cooperation means working together for mutual gain - sharing responsibility for success and failure and covering for one another on a moment's notice. It does not mean competing with one another at the team's expense, withholding important data or information to be "one up" on your peers, or submitting to "groupthink" by going along so as not to make waves. These are "rule breakers," that are direct contradictions to the "team first" mind-set.
High performance teams recognize that it takes a joint effort to synergize, generating power above and beyond the collected individuals. It is with this spirit of cooperation that effective teams learn to capitalize on individual strengths and offset individual weaknesses, using diversity as an advantage.
Effective teams also understand the importance of establishing cooperative systems, structures, incentives and rewards. We get what we inspect, not what we expect. Think about it. Do you have team job descriptions, team performance reviews and team reward systems? Do you recognize people by pitting them against standards of excellence, or one another? What are you doing to cultivate a team-first, cooperative environment in this competitive, "me-opic" world?
To embrace the team-first rule, make sure your team purpose and priorities are clear. What is your overall mission? What is your game plan? What is expected of each team member? How can each member contribute most effectively? What constants will hold the team together? Then stop and ask yourself, are you putting the team first?
Effective team players understand that personal issues and personality differences are secondary to team demands. This does not mean abandoning who you are or giving up your individuality. On the contrary, it means sharing your unique strengths and differences to move the team forward. It is this "we-opic" focus and vision - this cooperation of collective capability - that empowers a team and generates synergy.
Cooperation means working together for mutual gain - sharing responsibility for success and failure and covering for one another on a moment's notice. It does not mean competing with one another at the team's expense, withholding important data or information to be "one up" on your peers, or submitting to "groupthink" by going along so as not to make waves. These are "rule breakers," that are direct contradictions to the "team first" mind-set.
High performance teams recognize that it takes a joint effort to synergize, generating power above and beyond the collected individuals. It is with this spirit of cooperation that effective teams learn to capitalize on individual strengths and offset individual weaknesses, using diversity as an advantage.
Effective teams also understand the importance of establishing cooperative systems, structures, incentives and rewards. We get what we inspect, not what we expect. Think about it. Do you have team job descriptions, team performance reviews and team reward systems? Do you recognize people by pitting them against standards of excellence, or one another? What are you doing to cultivate a team-first, cooperative environment in this competitive, "me-opic" world?
To embrace the team-first rule, make sure your team purpose and priorities are clear. What is your overall mission? What is your game plan? What is expected of each team member? How can each member contribute most effectively? What constants will hold the team together? Then stop and ask yourself, are you putting the team first?
2010年5月12日星期三
Giving to Others Makes You Rich
Giving to others has benefits from improving your self-image to creating a better world. you'll feel good about yourself when you give to others because you see an admirable, loving side of yourself. You grow by giving. Selflessness is birthed within you each time you give, performing a remarkable transformation on your overall being. Giving makes you rich with happiness.Your giving sets an example for your children, family and friends to do the same. When you give, you start a ripple effect that expands from those closest to you and reaches people you do not even know. Giving makes you rich in love and grace.A single act of giving can change the lives of more people than you would ever know. Each time you give, you bring your world one step closer to complete harmony. Giving makes you rich in peace.The more you give away, the more you have. You are like a cup that automatically fills up again every time you pour some out. When you share your blessings, you receive more blessings in return. Giving makes you rich in the things that matter most.Giving to others has a powerful effect on your life. Your mood is positively affected each time you give. When you see the expression on others' faces and try to imagine what they are going through, you are rich with gratitude.Today, enrich every area of your life by choosing to share your
blessings with others.
blessings with others.
2010年5月11日星期二
Why It Is Important to Manage Your Money
Have you ever realized that no matter how much money you earn,
you always seem to be running out of money?When you were earning $2,000, you'd whine to your friend, "I'mbroke." But when your pay went up to $3,000, you'd still tell yourfriend, "I'm broke." And that happens even when your pays went upto $4,000, $5,000 or beyond.Have you ever wondered why is that happening?The answer is simple. Because when you make more money, you simplyspend more money! And the reason you spend more is because youthink you deserve a better lifestyle since you're making more moneynow!So if you don't manage your money, you'll forever be strugglingfinancially because your money will always seem to be disappearingwithout a trace.Therefore, good money management is your ticket to financialsecurity.
you always seem to be running out of money?When you were earning $2,000, you'd whine to your friend, "I'mbroke." But when your pay went up to $3,000, you'd still tell yourfriend, "I'm broke." And that happens even when your pays went upto $4,000, $5,000 or beyond.Have you ever wondered why is that happening?The answer is simple. Because when you make more money, you simplyspend more money! And the reason you spend more is because youthink you deserve a better lifestyle since you're making more moneynow!So if you don't manage your money, you'll forever be strugglingfinancially because your money will always seem to be disappearingwithout a trace.Therefore, good money management is your ticket to financialsecurity.
2010年5月4日星期二
Delay Gratifications
What keeps people from becoming rich is their desire for instantgratifications. Human beings are inherently impatient and willalways want to enjoy now rather than wait for future benefits.It is precisely this reason that they don't save enough, they don'tinvest enough, and hence, they suffer when retirement comes or whenemergency arises.There are only two ways to use your money. You can either spend itor invest it. By investing, I'm not just referring to putting yourmoney in investment instruments like stocks, currencies, or bonds.Spending $3,000 on a solid seminar/workshop is considered a form ofinvestment. I call it self-investment i.e. invest in your biggestasset - your mind. In fact, self-investment is the first form ofinvestment you should be making before anything else.Millionaires understand this and embrace the practice of 'delayedgratifications'. They have the patience to wait for greaterabundance in the future. And they invest a lot more than they spend.
2010年4月25日星期日
2010年4月22日星期四
人与人的区别
人与人的区别在于一个人的思想品性和思维方式，成功或者失败同样存在于此；
其实人与人的头脑和潜力并无太大大差距，有些人之所以能够出人头地就是因为他对待问题的思维方式和解决事情的方法跟别人不同。
人们哇哇落地时并无任何区别，经过了后天的培养，塑造，磨练，环境影响，以致人与人差距越来越大；在现实生活中很多人的思维方式都是顺向思维，顺其自然，很少叛逆，排斥和反驳。好多人说，人一出生命运就已注定，也许跟这个有一定关系；因为很多人一生都不能冲破命运的枷锁。也有人这样说人的外表很重要，一个好的面貌可帮助一个人成功，但并非重要因素。其实人与人长相也并无太大差距，大致都是一张鼻子，一张嘴，两只眼睛，两只耳朵。最重要在于一个人的品行，看待，面对问题和解决的方法。心灵上的美更大于外在的美。人活着简简单单的说都有一个目标和希望，少年树立志向，中年希望平稳，老年希望安逸。其目标和希望区别在于它存在的价值与意义。一个人的胸怀与思想是注定理想，目标的得标码，思维方式和处事方法是成功的决定因素，良好的品性是注定一个人成功关键所在。
人的一生之所以局限自身，不能够实现真正的理想与目标，正因为思考的方式，思想修为不能够达到局限之外。丰富的人生经历可以使人不断思考问题，不断积累经验，从而不断成长。磨难和挫折更助于人迅速成长，打破局限。富人和穷人，一开始并无任何区别，区别在于后天的磨练，思考，解决问题的方法。其实天才与常人也并无太大区别，天才只不过针对某件事或物极度痴迷，不断研究，付出，与摸索，是自己的潜能在某种意识上已超越极限，让人称之为天才。每个人都有潜在的意识和能力，即使遇到再大风波，挫折与磨难，请不要放弃生活，理想，希望，事事都有解决的方案，只要你勇敢的走下去，就一定可以解决！！
其实人与人的头脑和潜力并无太大大差距，有些人之所以能够出人头地就是因为他对待问题的思维方式和解决事情的方法跟别人不同。
人们哇哇落地时并无任何区别，经过了后天的培养，塑造，磨练，环境影响，以致人与人差距越来越大；在现实生活中很多人的思维方式都是顺向思维，顺其自然，很少叛逆，排斥和反驳。好多人说，人一出生命运就已注定，也许跟这个有一定关系；因为很多人一生都不能冲破命运的枷锁。也有人这样说人的外表很重要，一个好的面貌可帮助一个人成功，但并非重要因素。其实人与人长相也并无太大差距，大致都是一张鼻子，一张嘴，两只眼睛，两只耳朵。最重要在于一个人的品行，看待，面对问题和解决的方法。心灵上的美更大于外在的美。人活着简简单单的说都有一个目标和希望，少年树立志向，中年希望平稳，老年希望安逸。其目标和希望区别在于它存在的价值与意义。一个人的胸怀与思想是注定理想，目标的得标码，思维方式和处事方法是成功的决定因素，良好的品性是注定一个人成功关键所在。
人的一生之所以局限自身，不能够实现真正的理想与目标，正因为思考的方式，思想修为不能够达到局限之外。丰富的人生经历可以使人不断思考问题，不断积累经验，从而不断成长。磨难和挫折更助于人迅速成长，打破局限。富人和穷人，一开始并无任何区别，区别在于后天的磨练，思考，解决问题的方法。其实天才与常人也并无太大区别，天才只不过针对某件事或物极度痴迷，不断研究，付出，与摸索，是自己的潜能在某种意识上已超越极限，让人称之为天才。每个人都有潜在的意识和能力，即使遇到再大风波，挫折与磨难，请不要放弃生活，理想，希望，事事都有解决的方案，只要你勇敢的走下去，就一定可以解决！！
2010年4月21日星期三
The Hidden Superpowers of Your Mind by Michael Lee
The mind is an infinite wonder. It has the fantastic ability totransmute your desires into their physical counterparts. You can doanything that your mind can conceive, as long as you have thebelief and will power to back it up.Take the case of cancer patients who were given placebo pills.These are just plain pills that have no healing capabilities. Sohow did they get well?The power came from their thoughts. They were told that these pillscontain the highest amounts of cancer-fighting ingredients which caneffectively cure them in a matter of days.See how powerful your mind is?They believed that their health will be restored. They haveregistered in their minds that these pills will cure them of theirillnesses. In the process, the belief embedded within theirsubconscious came to reality.So how can you use your mind to attain success and achieve yourdreams? One of the most effective ways is to use the "as if"principle.Act as if you are the person you want to be. Act as if you arealready in possession of whatever you long to have.So what do you want to be? You want to be a lawyer, doctor,athlete, or newscaster? Think, act, and feel like one. You'll bemuch closer to your goal if you're constantly intact with yourobjective. Be obsessed with your dream. It doesn't mean that if youwant to be Superman you'll fly out the window. Not a good idea!It's not enough that you act like one, but you have to actuallyACT. Do what needs to be done. You might get so lost in yourfantasy dreamworld that you've forgotten to take some action. Letyour visions encourage and motivate you to actualize your purpose.The problem with the people of the modern world is that they aretoo preoccupied with worries, anxieties, and negative emotions. Asa result, they are adversely affecting their state of health.White lies have become prevalent nowadays in order to ease theburdens or to persuade others to do things that they thought areunattainable.There was once a weightlifter who couldn't lift weights in excessof 300 lbs. So his coach devised a clever idea and told him thatthe barbell he has to carry weighs only 300 lbs. With all hismight, the weightlifter managed to put it above his head. After heputs it down, the coach told him that he has just lifted 350 lbs.of weight! It's all in the mind!Henry Ford once said, "Whether you think you can or you can't, you're right."If you think you are poor, then you are; unless you properlycondition your thoughts to the positive mindset. I know it's hardto think rich if your environment is not conducive to such way ofthinking. Use your imagination then! Visualize your house to be amansion, your old car to be a limousine,... Well you get thepicture.There is absolutely no limit with what the mind can achieve. Butyou have to combine belief, will power, and action with positivethinking in order to arrive at your intended destination.
2010年4月19日星期一
父母的好习惯决定孩子的大未来
不成熟的人无法为自己所做的事情负责，所以必须从小就教育孩子：为自己所做的决定负责任，否则将会有越来越多的社会问题出现。有时候父母会过度保护孩子，使得孩子渐渐失去独立的能力。有时不妨试着放手让孩子去做些事情，不仅能够证明他们的成长，也能够建立他们的自信心。
有越来越多的孩子过着饭来张口、衣来伸手的日子，使得他们无法得知这些伸手可得的事物，是通过如何艰辛的历程而来。懂得感恩的人，才能明白幸福的所在。
2010年4月17日星期六
须知种瓜得瓜，种豆得豆
这就是因缘果報不变的一个真理。你种植的种子不良，你就决定不会有好的收成。这个比喻，让我们明瞭，种善因得善果，造恶业必定得恶報。世，世出间一切法，总不外乎因缘果報。
《法华经》里面讲的十如是，如是因，如是缘，如是果，如是報，一直到如是本末究竟。这个十句讲成一千句，说明宇宙人生就是一个因果循环的道理，一定要把它认识清楚，瞭解透彻明瞭，我们才能够避免造作一切业障。彻底明白的人，没有不求生净土。不能彻底明白的人，还留念在这个世间，你在这个世间確確实实可以得大福報。我们今天在这个世间，看到许多有福的人，拥有百亿财富，千亿财富，从那里来的？过去生中修福得来的，不是偶然的，没有侥倖偶然得来的道理。祸福都不是偶然的，都是自己过去世修的因，今生造的缘，因缘所现的報应。
2010年4月16日星期五
你的心态就是你真正的主人
你的心态就是你真正的主人
“ 要么你去驾驭生命，要么是生命驾驭你；你的心态决定谁坐跨，谁是骑师。”
是的！生活在这复杂的社会里，一定要对周围发生的一却-----包容，理解，互助，合作，創新；
“心态决定命运，积极的心态創造人生，消极的心态消耗人生”
选择了积极的心态， 就等于选择了成功的希望；选择消极的心态，就注定走入失败的沼泽。 如果你想成功，想把美梦成现实，就必须放弃这种扼杀潜能，摧毁你希望的消极心态！
是的！生活在这复杂的社会里，一定要对周围发生的一却-----包容，理解，互助，合作，創新；
“心态决定命运，积极的心态創造人生，消极的心态消耗人生”
选择了积极的心态， 就等于选择了成功的希望；选择消极的心态，就注定走入失败的沼泽。 如果你想成功，想把美梦成现实，就必须放弃这种扼杀潜能，摧毁你希望的消极心态！
“人定胜天”最关键的因素就是人自己。
让我们摆脱失败的借口，寻求成功的方法，永保积极的心态，相信成功的这一天不会遥远！
让我们摆脱失败的借口，寻求成功的方法，永保积极的心态，相信成功的这一天不会遥远！
2010年4月13日星期二
Developing a Millionaire Mindset
I've always been a big believer in "You Are The Foundation of
Your Own Success". If you're not going to lay a strong foundation
for your success, you're not going anywhere.And since you're the foundation, that means you have to first buildyourself. And that means building your mindset.Our mind is the greatest asset we can invest in. No other forms ofassets even come close. The potential return we can yield frominvesting in our mind is virtually unlimited.Stocks and real estate may give you a return of 100%, 200%, ormaybe even 500%. But your mind can potentially give you infinitereturn, if developed correctly.Millionaires are rich not because they're more hardworking, smarteror luckier. They're rich because they know how to play the game ofmoney and they invest intensively and extensively in their mind,knowledge and skills, especially financial knowledge and skills.Take Donald Trump for example. During the 90's, he went from being a billionaire to being on the brink of bankruptcy, with a personaldebt of more than US$900 million! But he made a remarkable comeback. And now, he's become a billionaire once again.In fact, Trump came close to bankruptcy on more than one occasion.But each time, he managed to pull it off and made his way back tothe top.The reason why he managed to emerge a winner again and again isbecause he has a millionaire mindset. Well... in his case, abillionaire mindset.Millionaires think and act very differently from the man in thestreet. The reason why you are not rich today is because you have a different set of habits, beliefs, values and attitude from themillionaires.
Your Own Success". If you're not going to lay a strong foundation
for your success, you're not going anywhere.And since you're the foundation, that means you have to first buildyourself. And that means building your mindset.Our mind is the greatest asset we can invest in. No other forms ofassets even come close. The potential return we can yield frominvesting in our mind is virtually unlimited.Stocks and real estate may give you a return of 100%, 200%, ormaybe even 500%. But your mind can potentially give you infinitereturn, if developed correctly.Millionaires are rich not because they're more hardworking, smarteror luckier. They're rich because they know how to play the game ofmoney and they invest intensively and extensively in their mind,knowledge and skills, especially financial knowledge and skills.Take Donald Trump for example. During the 90's, he went from being a billionaire to being on the brink of bankruptcy, with a personaldebt of more than US$900 million! But he made a remarkable comeback. And now, he's become a billionaire once again.In fact, Trump came close to bankruptcy on more than one occasion.But each time, he managed to pull it off and made his way back tothe top.The reason why he managed to emerge a winner again and again isbecause he has a millionaire mindset. Well... in his case, abillionaire mindset.Millionaires think and act very differently from the man in thestreet. The reason why you are not rich today is because you have a different set of habits, beliefs, values and attitude from themillionaires.
Today is the Blueprint of Your Tomorrow
Every day, be aware of the fact that you are designing a betterfuture for yourself and for the generations to come. Work hard soyour children and their children can have a brighter tomorrow.How you spend today is a reflection of how you will spend tomorrow,therefore, any changes you want to see in your life must begintoday. Positive change begins when you take your dreams seriously and launch into action.No matter how far you've come, continue to better yourself knowingthat the sky is not the limit, but rather the beginning of a newlevel. Make changes today because you want to see yourself living in a future free from regret. Devote time each day to things of eternal value and choose to be anactive participant in life. In turn, seize every opportunity to learn new skills and improve yourself. Your values and priorities are evident by the way you carryyourself each day. Recognizing that your future is not an isolated event, but the collection of individual days, resolve to make each day count.Be careful to form new habits that only bring you closer to thedream you have for your future. In order to be productive, eradicate negative behaviors from your daily routine. Instead of waiting around for something great, actively pursuegreatness in the mundane tasks of the day-to-day.Today, begin new, positive behaviors to reshape your future.
Excerpt from The 100/0 Principle, by Al Ritter
What is the most effective way to create and sustain great relationships with others? It's The 100/0 Principle: You take full responsibility (the 100) for the relationship, expecting nothing (the 0) in return.
Implementing The 100/0 Principle is not natural for most of us. It takes real commitment to the relationship and a good dose of self-discipline to think, act and give 100 percent.
The 100/0 Principle applies to those people in your life where the relationships are too important to react automatically or judgmentally. Each of us must determine the relationships to which this principle should apply. For most of us, it applies to work associates, customers, suppliers, family and friends.
STEP 1 - Determine what you can do to make the relationship work...then do it. Demonstrate respect and kindness to the other person, whether he/she deserves it or not.
STEP 2 - Do not expect anything in return. Zero, zip, nada.
STEP 3 - Do not allow anything the other person says or does (no matter how annoying!) to affect you. In other words, don't take the bait.
STEP 4 - Be persistent with your graciousness and kindness. Often we give up too soon, especially when others don't respond in kind. Remember to expect nothing in return.
At times (usually few), the relationship can remain challenging, even toxic, despite your 100 percent commitment and self-discipline. When this occurs, you need to avoid being the "Knower" and shift to being the "Learner." Avoid Knower statements/ thoughts like "that won't work," "I'm right, you are wrong," "I know it and you don't," "I'll teach you," "that's just the way it is," "I need to tell you what I know," etc.
Instead use Learner statements/thoughts like "Let me find out what is going on and try to understand the situation," "I could be wrong," "I wonder if there is anything of value here," "I wonder if..." etc. In other words, as a Learner, be curious!
Principle Paradox
This may strike you as strange, but here's the paradox: When you take authentic responsibility for a relationship, more often than not the other person quickly chooses to take responsibility as well. Consequently, the 100/0 relationship quickly transforms into something approaching 100/100. When that occurs, true breakthroughs happen for the individuals involved, their teams, their organizations and their families.
Implementing The 100/0 Principle is not natural for most of us. It takes real commitment to the relationship and a good dose of self-discipline to think, act and give 100 percent.
The 100/0 Principle applies to those people in your life where the relationships are too important to react automatically or judgmentally. Each of us must determine the relationships to which this principle should apply. For most of us, it applies to work associates, customers, suppliers, family and friends.
STEP 1 - Determine what you can do to make the relationship work...then do it. Demonstrate respect and kindness to the other person, whether he/she deserves it or not.
STEP 2 - Do not expect anything in return. Zero, zip, nada.
STEP 3 - Do not allow anything the other person says or does (no matter how annoying!) to affect you. In other words, don't take the bait.
STEP 4 - Be persistent with your graciousness and kindness. Often we give up too soon, especially when others don't respond in kind. Remember to expect nothing in return.
At times (usually few), the relationship can remain challenging, even toxic, despite your 100 percent commitment and self-discipline. When this occurs, you need to avoid being the "Knower" and shift to being the "Learner." Avoid Knower statements/ thoughts like "that won't work," "I'm right, you are wrong," "I know it and you don't," "I'll teach you," "that's just the way it is," "I need to tell you what I know," etc.
Instead use Learner statements/thoughts like "Let me find out what is going on and try to understand the situation," "I could be wrong," "I wonder if there is anything of value here," "I wonder if..." etc. In other words, as a Learner, be curious!
Principle Paradox
This may strike you as strange, but here's the paradox: When you take authentic responsibility for a relationship, more often than not the other person quickly chooses to take responsibility as well. Consequently, the 100/0 relationship quickly transforms into something approaching 100/100. When that occurs, true breakthroughs happen for the individuals involved, their teams, their organizations and their families.
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